People have lots of ways to define love. It all has to depends and varies from one person to the other. To define love might be somewhat complicated.
Love can be regarded as pure emotions. It can equally be a mix or combination of all other feelings. This is depending on what the individual in question wants as love.
Marriage on the other hand, is the ceremony we put together to celebrate love. But again, not all marriages are as a result of love. Some are barely to fulfil some obligation. Others are just to get some parents out of our backs. This is particular with the female child in some African communities.
Difference Between Love and Marriage.
Love is meant for all but is marriage for all ?
Some people can love many, several women or men at the same time. They will show all of their lovers similar if not the same degree of love. They will carter for them in the same way and hold them close to heart in the same way. Some men will have different women in their lives with different shades, shapes and colors, just to spice their lives. They may even feel the same for all these women and hold them at the same level. In our everyday, these kinds of people are referred to as players.
Marriage on the other hand is commitment. It takes a lot to be committed to one person for the rest of your life. It takes the “Players” out of the game and get them to stick to one person. To bundle all the love they have been sharing on several persons and put on one person they choose to marry.
Nowadays, we see married men and women tangled in other love relationships. Some got into marriages for the wrong reasons. Some got married where there was no degree of love but just hoping to develop love in the marriage.
No one said this is easy. That is why it’s easy to find love. It’s easy to fall in love, but to be married and stay married to that one person, its takes commitment.
Causes of Unfaithful marriages.
Some people get married for the wrong reasons. Some get married because all their peers are settling down in marriage and they simply think by virtue they must get married too.
Others get married because they are forced into it. This is mostly the case with the girls whose parents and society think they must be married before a certain age.
Some couples say “I do ” to each other not because they have that willingness to commit to each other but simply because one is mounting pressure on the other.
You may be living with a man or woman in the name of marriage, but they love someone else out there. This marriage you are in is just a shield or a mirror. It doesn’t matter how long you are in the marriage, if the love is not there, the unfaithfulness is bound to prevail.
The list goes on for the wrong reasons people get married which eventually makes them uncommitted to their marriages leading to unfaithfulness.
Love, Commitment and Marriage
Love is for everyone. Even a child can love. But marriage is for the matured minds. People who are willing and ready to convert that love into a commitment.
To be in a marriage, there has to be that readiness. This is a contract you are getting into. Understand the terms of this marriage contract before getting into it. You cannot ignore the terms and conditions of this contract which usually says at some point, “for better for worst”.
Not everyone is ready for these contracts. Do not push your partner to get into marriage when they are not ready and have not read the fine prints of the contract. You might have been dating for several years, but that doesn’t warrant marriage if you are not ready!
